What does it mean to be a woman today? Being a woman means different things to different people, and the answer to that question also changes through time and culture. As a male therapist this is something that I have to always be aware of. I am a husband, a father, a friend, a therapist, and probably a few more things too. But each of these things is only a part of who I am.  And I leave it up to my clients as to how they define themselves, and sometimes I help them discover the identity they have always wanted but have been unsure or unready to reveal.

I have worked with many women on many different issues, both in individual and couple's counseling. And although seeing a male therapist may be unfamilar or even a little unsettling, I work very hard to be fair, honest, compassionate, and sensitive to the varying needs of my clients based on many factors such as age, ethnicity, upbringing, cultural and spiritual beliefs, male or female.

In therapy I regularly ask the question, "If you were able to be FULLY real, who would you be with your husband, with your kids, with your family members, with your coworkers? Who would you REALLY want to be?" The answer I often get back is that this person would be doing a lot of things differently if they were living as their true selves, or if they just felt like they had more self-control. Fear, frustration, resentment, anger, dissappointment, sadness, depression...these feelings all mask the ways that we can be genuine  -  how we can be fully ourselves. Are there ways you handle certain situations or people that are ineffective, destructive, or just shocking even to yourself? That can change. You can, with time, practice, and awareness, become the woman you truly want to be.

      If you need help with your relationships or with your self, even if its uncomfortable, I can help you take a look at this. It will make a difference to the way you live your life, and what you see when you look in that bathroom mirror. The time is now. You, your husband, your children, and all the people that matter in your life will benefit. The question facing you is, "Do you want something different from what you have right now, and what are you willing to DO about it?" I am also keenly aware of the fact that no one person in a relationship can fix all the problems or do all the emotional heavy lifting by themselves. However, when one person begins to change how they operate in a relationship consistently, it automatically produces SOME results that are felt by everyone. In the end, the only person who can choose how you respond to situations is you, and it is from this perspective that I will help you with the things YOU can change.